There is only so much insight I can offer with regards to pregnancy, so this week’s post features an interview with my wife. Read on to get the real scoop on pregnancy from a woman going through it! My questions are in bold italics and her response is below. I added a comment or thought below her response, in italics.
What was the first emotion you felt when you found out you were pregnant?
I felt excited! I wanted to be pregnant for over a year and although we weren’t trying, it was always on my mind and I just couldn’t wait! When I found out, It was a surprise! I felt ready, hopeful, and very excited.
She was definitely excited, but she has her worries and fears as well. That’s normal, and it’s okay 🙂
What was the first thought you had after you knew you were pregnant?
After the initial excitement I started to think back on the past month. When did we actually conceive? How long have I been pregnant and not known it? Mostly I thought of how crummy I had felt the past month emotionally and physically and it began to make sense that I was pregnant!
Life works like that, and it’s God’s way of shaping us. Sometimes we learn something, and events that didn’t make sense before are now crystal clear. The hard part is learning to trust before we can see the whole picture.
What has been the most difficult part of pregnancy?
The most difficult part for me has been the physical changes. Eating, drinking, sleeping, moving, breathing and/or doing any physical activity has been harder and more complicated for me. Eating: I have become way more picky and temperamental about different foods and beverages. Sleeping: I can’t sleep in the same positions that I did before, so that’s been a huge adjustment. Plus my sleeping and restroom patterns have changed. Moving, breathing, and/or any other physical activity: these areas are laughably altered. I say laughably because although I don’t find pain and exhaustion funny, I do wish someone could record me trying to move, or get up off the couch, or climb two or three stairs because I am quite sure I look and sound like I’ve suddenly aged 75 years and can’t handle it.
You should see her walk these days; it can be quite humorous. Don’t worry, I only laugh because she laughs 🙂
What has been the best part of pregnancy?
The very fact that I am growing a human inside my body is amazing to me! It’s liberating and humbling at the same time. I feel so strong within myself and so blessed to be able to be a part of this process. Besides the fact that this is all a miracle from God, I love feeling my baby kick and move. Before he started noticeably moving it was harder for me to feel like he was real. After I could feel him moving I just felt so much more connected to him. Sometimes I get giddy just sitting feeling him move around!
It’s so fun to see the expression of delight on her face when our baby boy is moving around a lot inside her. At least, the times where he’s moving but not kicking her bladder or ribs. At those times, her face isn’t displaying delight.
What’s the weirdest food craving you have had?
Pickled beets. This started after I tried them once on a salad and I started craving them at random times of the day or nights. Also, anything with vinegar in or on it.
This one worked well for me because we went to a pizza place that had a salad bar with pickled beets. Pizza for me, a salad with pickled beets for her.
What are you most excited about once your baby is born?
Definitely holding him, bonding with him, breastfeeding him and kissing him ALL OVER!
Me too! Except the breastfeeding part.
What is your biggest fear for once your baby is born?
I sometimes fear that he will have some type of deficiency or not be perfectly healthy. I do not fear these things for myself, but I want my baby to be healthy for HIS sake. No parent wants to see his or her child suffer.
I have nothing to add to this. We pray for a healthy baby, and know that God is in control and He is good, no matter what.
During pregnancy, what has been the most helpful thing your husband (me) has done to help you?
I have asked for many nightly massages from my hubby, and he has been very gracious! I notice a difference in the depth of sleep I get in a night when I receive a massage, as opposed to a night when I don’t get a massage, and although I don’t want to “put him out” I figure that I deserve it for all I am doing for our child, and if I sleep better, so will he!!! Besides that, he has been so encouraging and often thanks me for what I am doing… this is huge and always makes me feel better.
Massages are a little more difficult to give now that she’s 8 months pregnant, but I try 🙂
What would you have liked your husband (me) to do differently throughout this pregnancy experience?
More foot massages! It’s so easy to forget the feet, but they are super important and mine hurt all the time!
For the record, since learning this I’ve been doing the feet also. But I’m sure there’s more that I could be doing to help in addition to this and she just doesn’t want to make me look bad.
What advice would you give to a friend who just found out she is pregnant?
I think I would try not to give her advice unless she asked for it. Each woman is so different in her beliefs and approach to pregnancy and my advice will only be helpful to her if she wants it. I think too many people give their advice way too freely to pregnant women. It can actually be really overwhelming and disheartening if you haven’t asked for advice or inquired about a particular subject specifically. I know people mostly have good intentions but I know as a first time pregnant women that I only truly appreciated and accepted the advice of other moms if I asked for it, and not if it was thrown in my face lovingly or forcefully. I would try instead to be excited for her and be supportive.
No one ever accused my wife of not having strong opinions or feelings 🙂
If you had to give one piece of advice to an expecting mother who is reading this, what would it be?
Try to eat what you are craving within 30 minutes from the time you started craving it because after 30 minutes the thought or smell of it may either make you puke or no longer be what you are craving and this can be a very frustrating cycle.
Finally, what advice would you give to her husband?
RUN to the nearest store or restaurant that has what your wife is craving and get what she asked for. Meanwhile pray hard that once you get back to her she is still craving what you got.
So very true.